Ask a Pole Dancer-May Pole Dance Blog Hop
I’m part of a group of pole dance bloggers on Facebook (yes there are that many of us that a group had to be created!). Every month we pick a different topic to write about. May’s theme was questions. Tell me how many times you told someone you were a pole dancer and they responded with a simple, “Oh, that’s cool.” Yeah, I’m guessing that has never happened! So we thought, why not ask and answer questions everyone wants to know the answers to? I tried to be all snazzy and high tech by video taping my response… that didn’t work out because after two hours of tedious work the whole thing ended up magically disappearing (or mistakenly deleted) from my computer. Hello, 21st Century! Here are my answers the plain old-fashioned way…
How long have you been pole dancing?
Four years. Wow, time flies!
What’s your favorite song to pole dance to?
I like everything from sentimental acoustic to booty bounce rap. Depends on my mood. Favorite all-time “put this song on and I can’t help but move to it” song is Talk Show Host by Radiohead.
What’s your favorite pole dance move?
I love shoulder mounts. It’s something that I’ve grown so much stronger with. It’s great for transitions and looks impressive when you get comfy with it. I even have a callous on my shoulder from doing it so much!
What pole move is your nemesis?
Phoenix. Can’t seem to nail this one. I have a handspring and I know I’m strong enough to do it but the transition from a spin to an inversion is tough for me. Hoping to get it this year….
If you have to classify your dance style, what would it be?
I would say my style is sensual and fluid. I emphasize clean lines combined with strong moves. I want to look like a dancer in the air, not a gymnast moving from trick to trick.
What inspires your movement? Why do you dance?
Anything and everything inspires me. I dance when I’m happy, angry, sad or apathetic. There is no mood that I can’t express through pole dancing. That’s why I love it so much! Dancing feeds my soul and the combination of performing athletic moves, overcoming physical hurdles and expressing emotions through movement is killer!
Any tips for training?
Work both sides! I’m serious about this one. Why when we go to the gym are we so meticulous about sets and reps and doing both sides but when it comes to pole training we throw all that out the window? Yes this is fun, but why does it have to be a choice between one or the other? This can change your body and self-esteem. Why wouldn’t you want to use proper form, look better and get stronger?
If you teach, why did you start teaching, and how did it change your practice?
I started teaching because I loved pole dancing so much. I wanted to share it with other people. It helped me become a better dancer. Nothing makes me happier than seeing someone climb to the top of the pole their first time. It’s so cool to see their faces light up.
If you have ever performed, how do you usually prepare your performance?
Performing is scary but I love it! It’s fun to prepare choreography, music, costume, concept, etc. It pushes me to be a better dancer and it’s fun to share a story with an audience. Leading up to a competition or a big show I will play my song on repeat over and over… I will eat, sleep and dream my routine. It can be stressful but the experience is rewarding.
How has pole dancing affected your life?
How has it not? It’s made me a better person, quite simply stated. It’s made me stronger and healthier. It’s helped me open up to dark corners of inner emotions. It’s helped me feel more comfortable in my own skin. It’s helped me accept other women more. I could go on… It’s changed me in so many positive ways.
What’s one pole stereotype that you wish would go away?
I wish that people wouldn’t assume all pole dancers are strippers. That is changing but there are still narrow-minded people out there. Yes pole evolved from strip clubs but that doesn’t mean that anyone who tries it is a stripper. We aren’t attention-seeking, insecure women as some claim. Quite the opposite we are confident and self-sufficient! I love how pole allows me to be a woman in the most extreme feminine sense yet still strong as hell. Trying to control female sexuality? What screams patriarchal tyranny more than that?
Also, since its May… does your Mother know that you pole dance and what does she think?
She loves it! She shares my videos with her friends and has seen me perform live. She’s even gone to a class herself.
Finish this sentence. Pole dancing is….
…everything and anything. That is why I love it so much. It can be anything you make it to be. Felix Cane once said, “you can do the most sizzling, jaw-dropping, wolf howl inducing striptease on a chair and the chair will still be a chair. A pole is an inanimate object it’s down to the performer to change the context.” Think about it. How simple it is…a metal, vertical pole. And look how much can be created from it. That is why I love it so much.
Now your turn! Leave your answers in the comment section or create a blog post of your own. Find all the questions here.